When you change how you look at things what you are looking at changes. Positive energy vibrates at a higher frequency than negative energy so it brings you up as negative energy brings you down. By taking agency to reframe how you see life you learn to experience it in a more positive way.
Preparing for this decade I hosted a couple life coaching events to help people set up their vision for 2020. It was such a great practice and I loved watching all of the participants dig deep to search themselves to define what they wanted their life to look like. One of my greatest joys is to create space for people to practice self reflection, self care and personal development.
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One of my favorite authors of all time is Dr. Brené Brown. I love to hear her speak even more so I usually listen to her audiobooks with her as the narrator. I listen to a lot of books. It’s my preferred way of learning. I especially appreciate the fact that she’s also an introvert. It always takes people by surprise when I say that I am an introvert because I am not shy. But the two traits are not mutually exclusive. I am very selective about who I interact with because people drain me. I am also an empath so I can feel the emotions of the people around me. Oftentimes the people that I am most intimately connected can be even more draining. But back to Dr. Brené.
Dr. Brené has done many years of research on shame. She has written many books on how courage, fear, and vulnerability play huge roles in us establishing deep connections with people and with living life wholeheartedly. I have not found a lie in any one word she has spoken or written. I urge you to read all of her work. And because I love and respect her so much, I will also not attempt to summarize her life’s work. I will only attempt to explain one concept that I believe she explains throughout her work. But please understand that these are my words.
Get Real with Yourself!
We live in a society where we are expected to put on a mask. Our current social construct has our ego in the driver’s seat. We want to look good, feel good, be right and be in control. But when we are real with ourselves sometimes we do not look good, we do not feel good, we are not right and we are not in control. Unfortunately, to put it plainly we are running around scared that someone might figure out that we do not have it all together. News Flash!!! No one has it all together. I have seen and even ascribed to the message of the suffering servant.
The one that is strong that takes care of everyone but no one cares for in return. I found two things to be flawed when I hear people (even myself) get on this tangent. First, I ask if the suffering servant let the people around them know they needed help. The majority of the time the answer is no. I would say a good 85% of the time the answer is no. My follow up question is usually why? Which takes some time to unpack because our ego works very hard to blame everyone instead of just claiming whatever fear is really looming. Now, I understand that sometimes we need help and the people close to us are unable to help but we have an opportunity to be seen and heard.
Once we have dug deep enough to get to the fear and separation, I circle back around to the second problem with this logic. “When did you figure out you were overtaxed?” This is where the work is done. We need to get real with ourselves on how much we can take. PERIOD. I am responsible for not saying not; no one else. Brené also writes, “Clarity is Kind.” Letting people know where you are is a form of being kind. It takes courage and vulnerability. They may judge you and that it is going to happen from time to time whether you know of it or not. The most important thing is, you have done the hard work to get real with yourself. Once you are real and clear with yourself you can start to set boundaries with yourself and others. Understand what you are willing to tolerate and what is not ok with you.
Three years ago I came down with a nasty flu. Many of you and your family are dealing with it right now. I didn’t take care of it right and ended up with pneumonia. After fighting off pneumonia with all antibiotics, steroids, and breathing treatments, I was healed. Two weeks later, I caught the flu again. I tried everything over the counter and nothing worked. I prayed hard and decided to take it old school. One of the older ladies in my aqua aerobics class told me about the home remedy below. It may sound nasty but it works every time.
I boiled half an onion and removed the onion. Next, mix into the liquid one tablespoon of cinnamon, the juice of 2 lemons, 2 tablespoons of honey, and one teaspoon of cayenne pepper. Surprisingly enough it tastes really good!
The next day I was feeling much better!
If you’re anything like me, you’re thinking, “Yuck onion tea!”
Let’s examine these ingredients one by one.
Onions contain chemical compounds with potential anti-inflammatory, anti-cholesterol, anti-cancer, and antioxidant properties, such as quercetin.
The World Health Organization recognizes the onion’s ability to help relieve symptoms of the flu such as coughing, congestion, respiratory infections, and bronchitis. Some folks recommend placing sliced onions beside the bed at night, or even just around the house, to help prevent yourself from getting the flu. I am not so sure about that! But after boiling the onion to make a tea I can confirm it works!
Most of us have always been told to drink tea or a hot toddy with lemon and honey when we are not feeling well. Have you ever wandered why? Lemons are not only tasty but they help boost your immune system which helps to fight off a cold or the flu.
Lemons are high in Vitamin C, a natural antioxidant that enhances the immune system. They have antiviral and antibacterial properties. Lemons are also high in potassium which an important mineral that helps the kidneys function to their fullest potential. Proper kidney function also regulates of blood pressure. Kidneys are essential in helping to flush waste from the bloodstream. Lemons also help alkalize the blood and urine by creating an alkaline-forming environment in the body.
“Lemon helps cut mucous,” states the Mayo Clinic, which describes drinking hot water with lemon and honey as a “time-tested recipe.”
Honey is known to bolster the immune system. A daily dose of honey can help you to feel energetic and stay healthy. It also has antibacterial and antimicrobial properties that help fight infections from viruses, bacteria, and fungi. Warning: Don’t give honey to children under 1 years old. Their immune systems aren’t developed enough to ward off infantile botulism, carried in honey spores.
I know you are thinking of sugar, spice, and everything nice but everything nice really means that cinnamon is a potent health hero. Cinnamon is an herb traditionally used by many ancient cultures. It is indicated for a variety of ailments including gastrointestinal problems, urinary tract infections, relieving symptoms of colds, and flu. It has remarkable anti-fungal and anti-bacterial properties. Some studies have shown that Cinnamon helps people with diabetes metabolize sugar better.
Cayenne stimulates digestion and muscle movement within the intestines which helps restore deficient digestive secretions and aids absorption of food nutrients. Cayenne also stimulates circulation and blood flow to the peripheral areas of the body. Any of you who love spicy food know this will warm your tummy and clear your sinuses make you sweat. Cayenne warms the body and stimulates the release of mucus from the respiratory passages. An herb such as cayenne or ginger that promotes sweating is considered to have a diaphoretic (sweat-inducing) action. This action can help reduce fevers and relieve such the congestion of colds and sinusitis.
Again, most of us have heard when our stomach hurts we should drink ginger ale. But the 99 cent store and other grocery markets sell the root. You can peel it, slice it, and boil it. Ginger has been in use since ancient times for its anti-inflammatory, carminative, anti-flatulent, and anti-microbial properties. The root helps improve the intestinal motility and has anti-inflammatory, pain killer, nerve soothing, anti-pyretic as well as anti-bacterial properties. Studies have shown that it may reduce nausea induced by motion sickness or pregnancy and may help relieve migraine headache.
This herb root only has 80 calories per 100 g and contains no cholesterol. Nonetheless, it composes many essential nutrients and vitamins such as pyridoxine (vitamin B-6), pantothenic acid (vitamin B-5) that are required for optimum health.
Furthermore, the herb also contains a good amount of minerals like potassium, manganese, copper, and magnesium. Potassium is an important component of cell and body fluids that helps controlling heart rate and blood pressure.
- Psalms 30:2 Lord my God, I called to you for help,
and you healed me.
- Psalm 103:3 The Lord who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases
- 1 Peter 2:24 “He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.”
- 3 John 1:2 Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.
- James 5:14-15 14 Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven.
1) Take care of yourself
2) Take care of your friends and family
3) Don’t buy into the hype-> Treat the problem not the symptoms. Most over the counter drugs help numb the pain but dont treat the problem. Ask yourself, how would you feel if you were one of the people that found out the hard way that the TheraFlu needed to be recalled?
In 2014 I read a lot about nutrition. I became acutely aware of the horrible relationship I had developed with food. If I’m honest, I did not understand a lot about food. Like many troubled relationships, I found that it all boiled down to a three key elements; understanding, communication, and expectation.
In order to understand the growth that took place, let me tell you how it started. I grew up in a healthy household where I enjoyed home-cooked meals that were well balanced with fruits and vegetables. My mother was a full-on veggie lover who loved to exercise and always told me she was a “fat kid”. I did not understand how that was possible when I was a pretty skinny kid/teenager. Like most young people I did not really like the wide variety of vegetables that she did so I stayed very close to broccoli, green beans and salads but I could eat a whole pepperoni pizza and never gained weight. My friends called me “Ribs” in junior high school because you could see my ribs when I wore a bathing suit.
A major shift happened while I was in high school; my mom fell ill, and our roles reversed. I became the bread winner, household shopper, and chef. I wasn’t old enough to understand the value of the substance and make up of our bodies. So, I made the unknowingly made the mistake of choosing quick and easy routes to meals and food. The majority of the time that meant frozen and microwaveable. A while later I started to notice that I was gaining weight and feeling sluggish. I decided I was eating too much so I started taking diet pills to suppress my appetite. Since I didn’t like coffee I would drink 2-3 energy drinks a day. My body was communicating that it needed fuel and expected nutrient rich food, but I did not understand. I was communicating that I wanted to look like the girls in the videos and magazines and and was still expecting to slim down.
As a requirement for college I took a health class and I learned great information on what I needed to have a healthy well balanced diet. It did help that I had at least started eating less food. I alternated between salads, frozen microwavable dishes, and over-cooked vegetables. I still took diet pills and drank energy drinks. I had developed a sugar addiction and was often stressed out. I was dealing with my mother’s multiple sclerosis, attending college, and working full-time and the weight just piled on. I visited my Uncle Dwayne before he was going into gastric bypass surgery and after not seeing me for ten years he had much wisdom to share on the unhealthy pathologies that our family shared with food. I spilled all the beans on what I was doing to myself. He made me promise to stop with the diet pills and energy drinks. He never made it out of that surgery so I could not go back on that promise. Our conversation also took the blinders off to the world of weight problems that I had only just begun to understand. Years of unhealthy eating and stress had helped me to get up to 230 lbs. At only 5 feet 4 inches tall, something had to change and it did!
Two of the best friends anyone could ever have taught me about food. This sounds funny and simple, but it was true. They helped me learn how to buy, cook, and eat healthy fresh and flavorful food. I learned optimal food combinations, portion control, and healthy sweet tooth alternatives. With the assistance of this wonderful support team, I started 2014 as a vegetarian who ate the rainbow of foods. I juiced fruits and vegetables as well as prepared my meals in advance to accommodate my busy schedule. I soon started feeling different, vibrant, healthy and alive. Mid-year I started eating fish and some small portions of meat, but I did not abuse my body the same way I previously had. I also kicked the habit of running to food when I felt stress. Moreover, through prayer, meditation and clear communication I have learned how to remove, avoid, and limit unhealthy stress. I have seen the needle on the scale go down which is nice but what is even more fulfilling is I know that I am well on my way to being healthier. I am being loving to my body, and it feels great!
The most important lessons I learned were very simple and could be applied to many different areas of life. The first and most valuable lesson I learned was: what you put in impacts what you get back. Like the adage “You are what you eat!” If you are loading yourself up with crap, you are going to feel like it. I started eating more foods that are grown on plants not manufactured in plants. The fresh fruits and vegetables that now occupy the majority of my dietary intake give me life, not a bunch of chemicals that I cannot pronounce and my body does not know how to break down.
The second most valuable lesson that I learned was support and accountability is key. I didn’t feel alone with friends to talk to when I was going to fall off the bandwagon. We started sharing holidays together when we thought we were not strong enough to resist the heavy food our families prepared. Last but certainly not least I learned that I had to keep my diet flavorful and exciting, which took preparation and time. I had to learn to try different things and step outside my comfort zone. Subsequently, I realized that it was a great thing to invest time and energy in preparing my food. I remember when I was always rushing to get some food so I can do this or that but this revelation hit me like a ton of bricks, “If you keep running on fumes you are going to run out of fuel!”
My hope for you in this next year is that this somehow encourages you invest in yourself from the inside out.
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YES! You are SOMEBODY!
If you would like to take a step further say
“I AM GREATNESS!
Greatness in development-Every day taking strides toward GREATNESS.
Ingredient #1 Positive Energy through Music
I start out each morning with gospel music. No matter your denomination or belief, it is beneficial to begin your day with positivity radiating towards you. Anything to get you moving and will put a smile on your face. 😀
You should always stay mindful of what you feed into yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. This includes; movies, music, the company you keep and the conversations you entertain. You are truly in control of your intake. Don’t get me wrong, I love all different kinds of music but there is a time and place for everything.
Ingredient #2 Get the positive intellect moving
I follow up with positive affirmations from various books and websites. In order to stay positive you have to continue to focus on positive things. There are all sorts of daily devotional and affirmation books out there. If you are not into books, check out “Positive Outlooks” on FaceBook, Notes from the Universe and the Secret. These messages will stay with you during the ups and downs of your day. If you find a really good one, write it down and stick it where you can see it; your desk, bathroom mirror, or even the sun visor in your car.
Ingredient #3 Sharing means caring!
Try to encourage positive conversations with friends, loved ones and co-workers so you can share this positive energy. We always hear how misery loves company. So why keep positivity to yourself?
Some people may mistake this excitement for life as being fake, naive or silly but if you truly believe that life is what you make it, why not focus on making the best out of it?
Warning: It is important that you know who you’re sharing your good fortune with. Only the those in your life who truly wish you well will share in your happiness. Others may try to bring you down with envy or jealousy or just flat out HATING. This is not a reflection on who you are but more a projection of their own greed, lack or confusion. Don’t worry about them. Hopefully they will learn to use your favor as motivation for their own greatness.
We are given things to use and people to love, not vice versa. So in this life you have an opportunity to use things to get ahead and spread love to people in the process. BUT this must start with you learning to love yourself FIRST. We all have flaws and shortcomings but that is what shows our strength and unique identity. If you have a vision for yourself FANTASTIC, just make sure you love who you are through the journey.
If you really want to get fancy you can add; exercise, meditation and a yummy cup of coffee
Step1- Start mapping a Positivity Plan
Step2-Share a positive conversation with someone today