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Get Real

One of my favorite Authors of all time is Dr Brené Brown. I love to hear her speak even more so I usually listen to her books with her as the narrator. I listen to a lot of books. (It’s my preferred way of learning.) But for her, especially because she is an introvert, also.  It always takes people by surprise when I say that I am an introvert because I am not shy but the two traits are not mutually exclusive. I am very selective who and interact with because people drain me. I am also an empath so I can feel the emotions of the people around me and the people that I am most intimately connected to which can be even more draining. But back to Dr. Brené. 

Dr. Brené has done many many years of research on Shame. She has written many books on how Courage, Fear, and vulnerability play huge roles in us establishing deep connections with people and with living life “Whole heartedly.” I have not found a lie in any one word she has spoken or written. I urge you to read all of her work. And because I love and respect her so much, I will also not attempt to summarize her life’s work. I will only attempt to explain one concept that I believe she explains throughout her work. But please understand that these are my words. 

Get Real With Yourself! 

We live in a society where we are expected to put up a mask. Our current social construct has our ego taking the driving seat to look good, feel good, be right and be in control. But if we are real with ourselves sometimes we do not look good, we do not feel good, we are not right and we are not in control. Unfortunately, to put it plainly we are running around scared that someone might figure out that we do not have it all together. News Flash!!! No one has it all together. I have seen and even ascribed to the message of the suffering servant. 

The one that is strong that takes care of everyone but no one cares for in return. I found two things to be flawed when I hear people (even myself) get on this tangent. First, I ask if the suffering servant let the people around them know they needed help. The majority of the time the answer is no. I would say a good 85% of the time the answer is no. My follow up question is usually why? Which takes some time to unpack because our ego works very hard to blame everyone instead of just claiming whatever fear is really looming. Now, I understand that sometimes we need help and the people close to us are unable to help but we have an opportunity to be seen and heard.

Once we have dug deep enough to get to the fear and separation, I circle back around to the second problem with this logic. “When did you figure out you were over taxed?” This is where the work is done. We need to get real with ourselves on how much we can take. PERIOD. Some days it is going to me more or less than others. And like Brené put it “Clarity is Kind” Letting people know where you are in kind. It takes courage and vulnerability. They may judge you and that it is going to happen from time to time whether you know of it or not. The most important thing is, you have done the hard work to get real with yourself. Once you are real and clear with yourself you can start to set boundaries with yourself and others. Understand what you are willing to tolerate and what is not ok with you.

Fight this Flu with FIRE!!!

Three years ago fell down hard with this nasty flu, just like many of you and your family members. I didn’t take care of it right and ended up with pneumonia. After fighting off the pneumonia with all of the antibiotics, steroids and breathing treatments, I was healed. Two weeks later, I caught the flu AGAIN. I tried everything over the counter and nothing worked. I prayed hard and took it old school. One of the older ladies in my aqua aerobics class told me about this home remedy. It may sound nasty but it works every time.

I boiled half an onion strained it, then mixed in a tablespoon of cinnamon, squeezed 2 lemons, 2 tablespoons of honey and a teaspoon of cayenne pepper and surprisingly enough it tasted good!

The next day I was feeling much better!

If your anything like me, you think yuck onion water!

Let’s examine these ingredients one by one.

Onions

onion

Onions contain chemical compounds with potential anti-inflammatory, anti-cholesterol, anticancer, and antioxidant properties, such as quercertin.

In fact, the World Health Organization recognizes the onion’s ability to help relieve symptoms of the flu such as coughs, congestion, respiratory infections and bronchitis. Some folks recommend placing sliced onions beside the bed at night, or even just around the house, to help prevent yourself from getting the flu. I am not sure about that but boiling it down and using the water, I have tested and confirm, it works!

Lemons

lemonsMost of us have always been told to drink tea or “Hot Totties” with Lemon and Honey when we are not feeling well. Have you ever wandered why? Lemons are not only tasty but they help your immune system which helps to fight off a cold or flu.

Lemons are high in Vitamin C, a natural antioxidant that enhances the immune system and has antiviral and antibacterial properties.Lemons are also high in Potassium, an important mineral that helps the kidneys function to their fullest potential and is involved in regulation of blood pressure. Your kidneys are essential in helping to flush waste from the blood.Lemons also help Alkalize the blood and urine by creating an alkaline-forming environment in the body.

“Lemon helps cut mucous,” states the Mayo Clinic, which describes drinking hot water with lemon and honey as a “time-tested recipe.”

Honey

HoneyHoney is known to bolster the immune system. A daily dose of honey can help you to feel energetic and stay healthy. It also has antibacterial and antimicrobial properties that help fight infections from viruses, bacteria, and fungi. Warning: Don’t give honey to children under 1 years old. Their immune systems aren’t developed enough to ward off infantile botulism, carried in honey spores.

Cinnamon

cinnamon

I know you are thinking of sugar, spice and everything nice but everything nice really means that cinnamon is a potent health hero. Cinnamon is a herb traditionally used by many ancient cultures. It is indicated for a variety of ailments including gastrointestinal problems, urinary infections, relieving symptoms of colds and flu and has remarkable anti-fungal and anti-bacterial properties. Some studies have shown that Cinnamon helps people with diabetes metabolize sugar better.

Cayenne Pepper

cayenne_pepperCayenne stimulates digestion and muscle movement in the intestines, which helps restore deficient digestive secretions and aids absorption of food nutrients. Cayenne also stimulates circulation and blood flow to the peripheral areas of the body. Any of you who love spicy food know this will warm your tummy and clear you sinuses and will make you sweat. Cayenne warms the body and stimulates the release of mucus from the respiratory passages. An herb such as cayenne or ginger that promotes fever and sweating is considered to have a diaphoretic (sweat-inducing) action. This action can help reduce fevers and relieve such the congestion of colds and sinusitis. 

Bonus: Ginger

gingerroot

Again, most of us have heard when our stomach hurts we should drink ginger ale. But the 99 cent store and other grocery markets sell the root. You can skin it, slice it and boil it. Ginger has been in use since ancient times for its anti-inflammatory, carminative, anti-flatulent, and anti-microbial properties. The root helps improve the intestinal motility and has anti-inflammatory, painkiller, nerve soothing, anti-pyretic as well as anti-bacterial properties. Studies have shown that it may reduce nausea induced by motion sickness or pregnancy and may help relieve migraine headache.

This herb root only has 80 calories per 100 g and contains no cholesterol. Nonetheless, it composes many essential nutrients and vitamins such as pyridoxine (vitamin B-6), pantothenic acid (vitamin B-5) that are required for optimum health.

Furthermore, the herb also contains a good amount of minerals like potassium, manganese, copper, and magnesium. Potassium is an important component of cell and body fluids that helps controlling heart rate and blood pressure

Prayer References

  • Psalms 30:2  Lord my God, I called to you for help,
and you healed me.
  • Psalm 103:3 The Lord who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases
  • 1 Peter 2:24 “He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.”
  • 3 John 1:2 Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.
  • James 5:14-15  14 Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven.

Prosperity Steps

1) Take care of yourself

2) Take care of your friends and family

3) Don’t buy into the hype-> Treat the problem not the symptoms. Most over the counter drugs help numb the pain but dont treat the problem. Ask yourself, how would you feel if you were one of the people that found out the hard way that the TheraFlu needed to be recalled?

I knew I had to change

salad-374173_12802014 was a nutritional growing period for the record books. I am not sure if I was ever more aware of the horrific relationship I developed with food and how much I did not understand about food. Like many troubled relationships, I found that it all boiled down to a three key elements; understanding, communication, and expectation.

In order to understand the growth that took place, let me tell you how it started. I grew up in a healthy household where I enjoyed home-cooked meals that were well balanced with fruits and vegetables. My mother was a full-on veggie lover who loved to exercise and always told me she was a “fat kid”. I did not understand how that was possible when I was a pretty skinny kid/teenager. Like most young people I did not really like the wide variety of vegetables that she did so I stayed very close to broccoli, green beans and salads but I could eat a whole pepperoni pizza and never gained weight. My friends called me “Ribs” in junior high school because you could see my ribs when I wore a bathing suit.

A major shift happened while I was in high school; my mom fell ill, and regret_harmonyI turned into the dominate; bread
winner, shopper, and chef. Not old enough to understand the value of the substance and make up of our bodies, I went for a quick and easy route to food. The majority of the time that meant frozen and microwavable. A while later, I started to notice that I was gaining weight and feeling sluggish so I decided I was eating too much so I started taking diet pills to suppress my appetite and since I didn’t like coffee I would drink 2-3 energy drinks a day. My body was communicating that it needed fuel and expected nutrient rich food, but I did not understand. I was communicating that I wanted to look like the girls in the videos and magazines and expecting to slim down.

As a requirement for college I took a health class and I learned great information on what I needed to have a healthy well balanced diet and it helped in that I at least started eating. I ate salads and went back to frozen microwavable dishes and over cooked vegetables, but I still took diet pills and drank energy drinks and had developed a sugar addiction when I was stressed out. Dealing with my mother’s Multiple Sclerosis, going to college and working full time meant there was enough stress to go around, so the weight piled on. Then I visited my Uncle Dwayne before he was going into gastric bypass surgery and after not seeing me for ten years he had much wisdom to share on the unhealthy pathologies that our family shared with food. I spilled all the beans on what I was doing to myself, and he made me promise to stop with the diet pills and energy drinks. He never made it out of that surgery so I could not go back on that promise. Our conversation also took the blinders off to the world of weight problems that I only started to begin to understand. Years of unhealthy eating and stress had helped me to get up to 230 lbs. At only 5 feet 4 inches tall, something had to change, and it did!

on-my-way_harmonyTwo of the best friends anyone could have taught me about food. This sounds funny and simple, but it was true. They helped me learn how to buy, cook, and eat healthy fresh, flavorful food. I learned optimal food combinations, portion control, and healthy sweet tooth alternatives. With the assistance of this wonderful support team, I started 2014 as a vegetarian who ate the rainbow of foods. I juiced fruits and vegetables as well as prepared my meals in advance to accommodate my busy schedule. I soon started feeling different, vibrant, healthy and alive. Mid-year I started eating fish and some small portions of meat, but I did not abuse my body the same way I previously had. I also kicked the habit of running to food when I felt stress. Moreover, through prayer, meditation and clear communication I have learned how to remove, avoid, and limit unhealthy stress. I have seen the needle on the scale go down which is nice but what is even more fulfilling is I know that I am well on my way to being healthier. I am being loving to my body, and it feels great!

The most important lessons I learned were very simple and could be applied to many different areas of life. The first and most valuable lesson I learned was: what you put in impacts what you get back. Like the adage “You are what you eat!” If you are loading yourself up with crap, you are going to feel like it. I started eating more foods that are grown on plants not manufactured in plants. The fresh fruits and vegetables that now occupy the majority of my dietary intake give me life, not a bunch of chemicals that I cannot pronounce and my body does not know how to break down. The second most valuable lesson that I learned was support and accountability is key. I didn’t feel alone with friends to talk to when I was going to fall off the bandwagon. We started sharing holidays together when we thought we were not strong enough to resist the heavy food our families prepared. Last but certainly not least I learned that I had to keep my diet flavorful and exciting, which took preparation and time. I had to learn to try different things and step outside my comfort zone. Subsequently, I realized that it was a great thing to invest time and energy in preparing my food. I remember when I was always rushing to get some food so I can do this or that but this revelation hit me like a ton of bricks, “If you keep running on fumes you are going to run out of fuel!”

My hope for you in this next year is that this somehow encourages you invest in yourself from the inside out.winking_harmony
If you are looking for other ways to continue to revolutionize your diet or life in general take some time to check out our other blogs and/or contact us for your first coaching session. We dedicate every day of our lives to make a LifeonSprings Easy, Effective, Sustainable, and Enjoyable. Let’s thrive together in 2015!

Cook Up A Good Morning

YES! You are SOMEBODY!

If you would like to take a step further say

“I AM GREATNESS!

Greatness in development-Every day taking strides toward GREATNESS.

Ingredient #1 Positive Energy through Music

I start out each morning with gospel music.   No matter your denomination or belief, it is beneficial to begin your day with positivity radiating towards you. Anything to get you moving and will put a smile on your face. 😀

You should always stay mindful of what you feed into yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. This includes; movies, music, the company you keep and the conversations you entertain. You are truly in control of your intake. Don’t get me wrong, I love all different kinds of music but there is a time and place for everything.

Ingredient #2 Get the positive intellect moving

I follow up with positive affirmations from various books and websites. In order to stay positive you have to continue to focus on positive things. There are all sorts of daily devotional and affirmation books out there. If you are not into books, check out “Positive Outlooks” on FaceBook, Notes from the Universe and the Secret.  These messages will stay with you during the ups and downs of your day. If you find a really good one, write it down and stick it where you can see it; your desk, bathroom mirror, or even the sun visor in your car.

Ingredient #3 Sharing means caring!

Try to encourage positive conversations with friends, loved ones and co-workers so you can share this positive energy. We always hear how misery loves company.  So why keep positivity to yourself?

Some people may mistake this excitement for life as being fake, naive or silly but if you truly believe that life is what you make it, why not focus on making the best out of it?

Warning: It is important that you know who you’re sharing your good fortune with. Only the those in your life who truly wish you well will share in your happiness. Others may try to bring you down with envy or jealousy or just flat out HATING. This is not a reflection on who you are but more a projection of their own greed, lack or confusion. Don’t worry about them. Hopefully they will learn to use your favor as motivation for their own greatness.

We are given things to use and people to love, not vice versa. So in this life you have an opportunity to use things to get ahead and spread love to people in the process. BUT this must start with you learning to love yourself FIRST. We all have flaws and shortcomings but that is what shows our strength and unique identity. If you have a vision for yourself FANTASTIC, just make sure you love who you are through the journey.

If you really want to get fancy you can add; exercise, meditation and a yummy cup of coffee

Step1- Start mapping a Positivity Plan

Step2-Share a positive conversation with someone today

The Winner’s Creed

If you think you are beaten, you are;

If you think you dare not, you don’t;

If you’d like to win but think you can’t;

It’s almost certain, you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost;

Since out in our world we find success begins with a person’s will,

It’s all in your state of mind,

Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger or faster hand;

But sooner or later the person who wins is the one who thinks “I CAN”

-Author Unknown

Celebrate your life!

challengeYOU

Celebrate each day like it is a new day of independence and liberation!

Liberate yourself from self-defeating thinking:

  • Have more patience and acceptance of yourself and others. You will find, you become more approachable and you will have less stress to carry.
  • You have two ears, two eyes and one mouth. Try listening and watching twice as much as you speak.
  • Practice the pause. Before you over react take time to think able how you can be more proactive in sharing peace and joy.
  • Sometimes being right is not the goal. Sometimes being heard is not the goal. Sometimes you have to learn to just BE.
  • Be full of JOY! Being unhappy, joyless and angry are all choices. Choose to be loving and joyful and you will attack that from others.
  • You are allowed to have expectations but your expectations are not requirements for others, they are choices and options for others. If someone does not choose to accept and meet your expectation, they are not automatically a bad person. They are a person with freedom and liberty just like you.

The simple truth is stress can turn you into someone you barely recognize.

Take a moment

Love your spirit, Love the heart and mind that God blessed you with.

self-reflection

At times you can feel an overwhelming since of responsibility that makes you feel like the weight of the world is dragging down your energy. Take a moment to see if you are struggling to continue to meet the crazy expectations that you set for yourself. I used to feel like if I was not the best or learning to be the best then it just seemed like a waste of time. But that wasn’t true. I had to learn to speak life into myself.

You do to. Live in victory! Say it with me “I’m living the victory”

You’re not alone. God is with you and he will always send you encouragement even if it does come from with in. Speak to yourself.

Personal Prison Break!

May 4th
I mindlessly spent years building a prison brick by brick. I locked myself in and swallowed the key then begged different people in my life to get me out.

Once I realized what I did I had to dig deep inside to get the key out. Once out I’ve spent time to knock the prison down brick by brick.

So when you see my rough, scared and tethered exterior? Understand it is the evidence of experience as a builder.