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There is a pivotal point in each of our lives around the age of two or three when we start to ask the question, “Why?” I was about nine years old when my little brother Kris went through another why stage. It almost drove me to lose my mind. He had more questions than any of us had answers. Even today he still has more questions than I have answers for, but at least now Google exists. I can’t be too mad at my brother though. According to our father, I have been asking people why as long as he can remember. He said I made him understand that it was the most powerful word in the English language. I still drive my friends, family, and clients crazy with why questions; but they tolerate me because my why questions are effective.
As children we ask why as we try to understand the world around us. As we get older sometimes we forget to continue asking. This is where my why questions come in. I seek to dig down into the root of the Thoughts, Beliefs, and Decisions that my clients make. Conventionally speaking TBD means To Be Determined. Thoughts, Beliefs, and Decisions will determine how your life with progress. Thoughts become things has become a wide understood concept thanks to the many contributes and thought leaders who took part in Rhonda Byme’s book, “The Secret” from a mental-spiritual perspective. And has been confirmed by doctors like Dr. Bruce Lipton from a biological perspective in, “The Biology of Belief.” I believe that we know more now about how to create the life we want to live.
Knowing is not enough. It takes work. It takes self reflection and sometimes we need help navigating the parts of our personality that make us uncomfortable. Digging in on TBDs in very challenging and many will cut themselves short by saying I don’t know. But if we don’t know ourselves we limit ourselves and our potential.
As we dig into our Whys and TBDs we find that many of them were caught rather than taught. Here’s a helpful exercise. Look at your everyday life. We brush our teeth the way we do because our parents taught us as a kid. Our wake up routine is the same since high school or the military. We raise our children the way we were raised. We keep on keeping on the way we have because we feel like it’s worked this long but do we know the why behind it? While you are looking at your Whys and TBDs do so without judgment. No weighing in if it is good or bad, justified or unjustified. Rather, the best measurement is only if it still serves your greatest good.
How you gonna win when you ain’t right within?
– Lauryn Hill
By the time most I meet me a lot of people, they are asking me to fix something. Like my infamous friend and client Gayl who literally asked to “fix it” when she wanted to lose weight after her son was born. Little did she know how much I was going to dig into when she became my client. Like most people, she hadn’t learned to make her internal life and well-being a big enough priority. One day in a conversation with my father, he was sharing about his friend who is very successful. He has a great job, makes great money, and is great with his kids. This same friend is also unhealthy, has unresolved trauma, and is stuck in a rut mentally. I countered by saying without inner peace there is no such thing as success. They haven’t learn to live in peace and make healing the priority. Money can’t buy self-worth, self-esteem and joy. But it can mask it with a bunch of material things. It is much easier to mask what is going on in the inside when you are distracted and validated by what is going on outside.
Anyone who has been on a trip with someone they didn’t like. Whether it’s a sibling on a long road trip or an annoying person sitting beside you on a long plane ride. It is a pretty simple concept to understand that if you are going to spend time with someone you might want to enjoy that person otherwise it’s gonna be rough. Well, the same is true with you and how you deal with yourself. You are going to spend more time with yourself than anyone else in this lifetime. The sooner you get right with you, the easier it is to deal with life.
You might be asking yourself what does it look like when you are “right within.” If you are unfamiliar you should listen to Doo Wop by Lauryn Hill. For the sake of time I will drop these couple bars for you from her song:
Girlfriend, let me break it down for you again
You know I only say it cause I’m truly genuine
Don’t be a hard rock when you really are a gem
Baby girl, respect is just a minimum”
Do you treat yourself like a hard rock or a gem? Do you expect everything to be difficult? Do you act like you can handle a beating? Maybe you can, I’m not saying you can’t. Is that want you deserve? Now, let me delineate, I’m not opposing being strong nor am I demeaning a hard workout neither am I debating whether one should box. I am talking about how you treat yourself within. What are your internal conversations like? How do you care for yourself?
How do we treat gems? With the respect and reverence. We take our time when looking at them; we inspect them. If you are anything like me you might have crystals that you clear, charge, and research. In the same way, our insides are worthy of being cleared, charged, and reflected upon to know what is going on within.
The unexamined life is not worth living?
I believe you should examine and get real with who you are this very minute. Take a quick self-check. This can take 5 minutes or 50 minutes, how ever long you can stand. Sit in quiet, without distractions, and check in with yourself. Start by paying attention to your heartbeat. Next, listen to the rhythm of your breathing. Next, move into to examining what’s on your mind. What are you thinking about? Is it worth your time? Engage your imagination: Try to visualize each thought rise up to the sky and float away with the clouds. After you have thought all of the thoughts and have sat with yourself as long as you can stand, give yourself a big hug. Tell yourself this short affirmation:
I am loved
I am seen
I am safe
In every aspect of my career I am required to focus first on what is going on inside of someone else. I am always trying to find out the root of the issue. In fitness I am looking first at how your body works. I’m looking for any structural compensations your body has made as well as your stability and balance. As a life coach, I dig into what someone wants most and what is holding them back. As a Reiki Practitioner, I see where someone’s energy is low or out of balance. This practice of sitting with yourself is the beginning to any kind of change and growth. Take it easier on yourself. You are a precious gem worthy of care.
Healthy Habits Make for a Happy Existence
As a full time entrepreneur one of my first investments was personal health insurance. There are a few ways you can go about doing this, I found a good broker who has been keeping me on temporary plans that are under $100 a month.
They only last about 3-6 months and once you get a temporary plan once with any particular company you have to move on to a new one. I have enjoyed looking at the different companies in efforts to find which works best for me.
In addition to having personal health insurance I found a few every day practices that have helped me to stay in the best health. Your health is not something to take lightly, especially when you are going to work more than you ever have before IN YOUR LIFE!!!
Today we are going to expand on two practices you can do to Rinse and Spit toxins right out of your body.
Practice One: Oil Pulling Therapy
- Tooth pain
- Stomach and Intestinal Diseases
- Heart Disease
- Blood Disease
- Kidney Disease
- Liver Disease
- Lung Diseases
- Women’s Diseases
- Nerve Disorders
- Retards the growth of and heal malignant tumors
- Cures chronic sleeplessness
- Intensifies the body’s metabolism which can lead to weight loss and improved health
- Can fasten (secure) loose teeth, heal bleeding gums, and whiten teeth
BE CAUTIONED: Oil pulling is a very simple process.
Preparation: Go to the health food store and buy sunflower seed oil. It was $3.99 at Trader Joes. I also use Coconut oil but it is a little more expensive.
Step Two Swish: Move oil slowly around inside of your mouth (rinsing or swishing and pull through the teeth). Do so for for fifteen to twenty minutes as recommended by Dr. Karach puts it. This process makes oil thoroughly mixed with saliva. Swishing activates the enzymes and the enzymes draw toxins out of the blood.
The oil must not be swallowed, for it has become toxic.
As the process continues, the oil gets thinner and white. If the oil is still yellow, it has not been pulled long enough.
Step Three Spit: Spit from the mouth and clean your mouth out really well. Some suggest using normal tap water and good old fingers to clean, I spit it in the toilet then brush my teeth. Then I wash my toothbrush off with boiling hot water. I drink a lot of teas, so, so, I just pour hot water from the tea pot over my toothbrush.
Step Four Clean the sink: You can use some antibacterial soap to clean the sink.
I personally use bleach and use Clorox wipes because the spit contains harmful bacteria and toxic bodily waste.
Practice Two: Gargling with peroxide
The FDA has approved 3% solutions of hydrogen peroxide for use as a mouthwash. Most sources said to use it only for a short time, however, such as part of a treatment of a mouth infection. Although. I had a personal friend who was a dental hygienist for 20 years. She brushed and gargled with it daily to avoid costly dental cleaning procedures.
Gargling with hydrogen peroxide will you kill bacteria in your mouth and help to whiten your teeth. But you have to be careful. Hydrogen peroxide is an acid, and it can damage the tissues in your mouth if you are not careful.
Here is a suggested process to gargle hydrogen peroxide safely
1 . Put one cap-full of hydrogen peroxide into a cup.
3. Pour the mixture into your mouth, but do not swallow.
4 . Swish the liquid around so that it is moved between your teeth to kill bacteria on the gums.
5 . Gargle the liquid by tilting your head back, opening your mouth and exhaling out of your throat. This will help to kill the bacteria that cause sore throats.
6 . Prevent swallowing by closing your mouth and continuing to exhale out of your throat as you lower your head over a sink.
7 . Spit all of the hydrogen peroxide mixture into the sink.
I challenge you to try these two practices at least every other day for the whole month of February. It is the shortest month of the year. Test drive these healthy habits.